Asian parents have a reputation for being reserved and detached. Think about it, how many times has your dad said “I love you”? And how often do you say it to him?

No wonder so many of us find it uncomfortable, even geli, to show our child how much we care. We’d do anything for them, just please don’t ask to be kissed and cuddled in public. As for praises, well, won’t it add up to “attitude” and a “big head”? That’s what we’ve been brought up to believe.

However, there’s strong evidence that showing your child you love them is important to their development. Children with attentive and affectionate parents tend to be happier, more resilient, and less anxious. Research from UCLA links this to how a child’s brain is actually shaped by affection.

So what can you do if you’re shy but loving? Or busy yet concerned?

Here are 5 simple yet meaningful ways to show your child you love them, every day…

1. Show excitement for the things they love.

We know, it’s hard to be “Wah, so cool!” about the Upin & Ipin episode you’ve seen more times than can be counted with two hands. But being involved in your child’s passions (even when it keeps changing, as it no doubt will) sends the message that you’re supportive of them.

2. Spend time together every day, no distractions.

Quality trumps quantity. Although if you can set aside more time for bonding, do it. Otherwise, even 5 to 10 minutes daily is better than zero. Do what you can without feeling guilty. Be present (set your phone to silent if you must), be playful and let them pick what they want to do.

3. Ask questions that let you get to know them better.

Your baby may be young, but they’re developing a personality and discovering what they love. Begin with simple questions such as “Do you like this?” and take it from there.

4. Look at your child when they're talking to you.

Junior may be small in size, but that’s no reason to make them feel small and insignificant. Let your child know, not just through words but also body language, that you’re paying attention.

5. Be generous with hugs, cuddles and kisses.

We may worry about spoiling our children too much. But babies and toddlers thrive on physical affection. To a child with still-limited language skills, these actions represent love and security.

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